The worst Thanksgiving I ever had is one of many disappointment, one right after another. I was so excited because my wife Patiance and I were slated to travel to New York City the week of Thanksgiving for our first ever visit. We had always wanted to go and my sister-in-law was already going on a return visit and we were going to tag along and have the benefit of having her be our gracious host and personal tour guide. The beautiful splendor of Autumn in New York for the holiday was a dream come true. We had also secured tickets to Late Night with David Letterman, which I had also always dreamed of attending as well. But unfortunately just a few short days before we were to take the much anticipated trip of our dreams, my poor wife became very ill and wound up spending an extended stay in the hospital, including Thanksgiving day itself. So on Turkey Day 1999, while my wife is in Central Baptist Hospital and we both are missing our dream trip, I head out to find someplace open to eat after moping around the hospital the majority of the day. I had waited so long that most decent places were closed and after driving around a bit trying to find anyplace at all open, I wound up driving back in the direction of the hospital and was forced to stop at the only place left open...Denny's!!! Yep, Denny's, not that there is anything wrong with their chain of restaurants but just watch any Thanksgiving movie from the 80's or 90's and you see them making fun of every single father that can't cook taking their family there after burning the dinner they attempted to make themselves. It was even used in one of the Santa Claus movies with Tim Allen if I'm not mistaken, like I said it was overused after a while. But, here I was one of only about five to six small groups of people partaking in the fine cuisine of Denny's late on Thanksgiving night, and the only person there alone. The tragically funny thing is that the stereotype was true as it looked as though most of the other clientele was dads with one or two children and no spouse in site. I did eat a fairly good meal, all the while feeling really sorry for myself and my wife for having missed the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade and our trip. I finished up and went back to the hospital and spent the night on the recliner that opens up to a bed. To this day I can still remember the smell of the food at Denny's, the cold of the gray, wet day in Lexington, and the feel of the springs in that recliner digging into my spine! WORST THANKSGIVING EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now the memory of my Best Thanksgiving is very heart warming to me. There were so many good things happening for Patiance and I. After working off shifts for so many years, I had finally landed a job working days and it had improved my physical health immensely. The health insurance company that Patiance had been working for had relocated to Indianapolis, leaving her out of work for a period of time but she had recently found a job that she really liked. We had just moved into a new home that we had purchased while they were building and even got to help pick out some of the paint and carpet colors. Life seemed great. But then it got even better. We had been trying for some time to have a baby, and just a few weeks before Thanksgiving we found out that Patiance was in fact expecting our first child. Of course if you know us now, you are aware that we later found out that in fact we were blessed with twins...Cameron and Kristen. So on Thanksgiving Day, I could think of nothing more than how blessed I was to have a beautiful wife, good health, a good life, and the greatest gift of all...knowing that God had blessed us with a child(children!!!). BEST THANKSGIVING DAY EVER!!!!!!!!!!!
The irony is that my WORST Thanksgiving and BEST Thanksgiving are the SAME DAY!!! After becoming pregnant, Patiance developed a case of hyperemesis gravidarum and spent time in and out of the hospital before being placed on strict bed-rest attached to I.V's and the first serious bout with this illness is what caused us to miss the aforementioned trip to NYC. At the time, I was obviously upset that we missed the fantastic trip that we had planned and was miserable with Patiance being so sick and my accommodations and meal that I endured that day. But in hindsight, it was really my first Thanksgiving as a parent. Because being a parent is about sacrificing for your children and caring for their well being. So now, as a parent, I look back and realize that giving up something like a vacation for the blessing of having two healthy, beautiful children is not only duty but actually one of the best things that ever happened to me.
Patiance and I never have made it to NYC for the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade, see Letterman, or visit Central Park in Autumn. But we still hope to make it there someday and take the kids with us. Hopefully it will be before they grow up, get married, and we have to cancel last minute because Kristen or either Cameron's wife is ill because they are expecting our grandchildren!!! LOL